Found this interesting article on UK Daily Mail written
by Sexpert Tracey Cox, who revealed the 50 things females need to know in bed.
Read below and share your thoughts...
1. You’ll have your first orgasm by yourself. Few of us
are lucky enough to start our sexual lives with a lover who’s so patient and
skilled he can teach us about our own body.
2. Enthusiasm and being willing to try (almost)
everything once is what makes you sexy. Looks, breasts, legs up to your armpits
– they’ll only take you so far.
3. A vibrator is the quickest, easiest, most effective
way to stimulate the clitoris, which is how most women have an orgasm.
4. You won’t become ‘addicted’ to your vibrator.
Using it often won’t put you off having the ‘real thing’
- quite the opposite!
Women who regularly use sex toys have higher libidos,
orgasm easily and report less sexual dysfunction. About the only ‘bad’ thing
that can happen is feeling a bit numb from having it up too high. Panic not -
It’s temporary.
5. Only 20 per cent of women can orgasm purely from
intercourse.
His ex-girlfriend who used to climax every time,
effortlessly, within minutes of him penetrating, was lying.
6. If he can’t kiss, he’ll be useless in bed.
Especially true of men who stick a stiff tongue down your
throat the second you lock lips.
7. The male sexual system is join-the-dots stuff. The
female sexual system is complicated and not terribly well thought through.
Who thought putting the clitoris outside the vagina would
be a good idea?
8. Anyone can be good in bed. But you do need a good
working knowledge of your subject, experience and be willing to take and give
feedback.
9. It’s obvious if you don’t like sex. All the tips and
tricks in the world can’t teach you how to fake
I’ll-die-if-I-don’t-have-you-now desire
10. The chances of you both climaxing together is
extremely unlikely. So let’s all stop pretending and stop faking just because
that’s what couples do on telly and in the movies.
11. If you fancy a threesome, do it with someone you’re
not in love with. It goes a lot smoother in your head than in your bed and not
much fun if you’re a frothing mess of jealousy and insecure paranoia
throughout.
12. You’ll have a much better sex life if you match up with
someone who has the same libido. Everyone’s sex drive spikes at the start but
about eight months in, you’ll get a good idea of how much sex you both
naturally crave. Mismatched sex drives are the main reason couples fight about
sex. If you can possibly manage it, stick with your tribe.
13. No one is born a brilliant lover. Sex skills can be
taught and brushing up on the basics, just to check you’re on the right track,
is something everyone should do. We can all improve.
14. It doesn’t mean you’re boring in bed if he wants to
try something new. Let go of the concept that ‘you should be enough’.
It’s hard enough making love happily to the same person
for the rest of your life. If you don’t have variety, you’ve lost the game
before it’s even started.
15. Men are visual. They like looking at sexy things.
This is the main reason why men watch porn.
It’s usually that innocent.
16. Both men and women like foreplay. Quickies are great
now and then but dreary and unsatisfying if that’s all you’re offered.
17. Don’t confuse love and lust. You spend a tiny
proportion of your lives having sex.
It helps if you quite like hanging out together the rest
of the time.
18. Men generally like to be touched twice as hard as
women do. Their skin is thicker. This doesn’t mean you should be rough though.
19. Giving oral sex without using your hands is about as
effective as bobbing for apples in a bucket of water with your hands behind
your back.
21. The more different ways you can orgasm, the more
orgasms you’ll have. This means forcing yourself to try a new way to climax if
you can only do it one way.
22. The first time you have sex shapes you forever.
If losing your virginity was a positive experience,
you’re more likely to view sex as something that’s healthy and enjoyable and
lovers as nice people who can be trusted.
If your first time still haunts you years later, consider
working it through with a good sex therapist.
23. Men aren’t just out for sex. But it’s easy to spot
the ones who are. They won’t hang around past date three if you don’t put out.
24. There is such a thing as bad oral sex. And not all
men adore oral sex.
25. Erections come and go during sex. It doesn’t mean
he’s not enjoying it, it means he was focusing on you and not receiving any
physical stimulation.
26. It’s often easier to orgasm solo than it is with a
partner, especially when it’s with someone new.
27. The most likely time you’ll fake it is at the start.
You don’t want to seem anything less than perfect. It’s later on, when you
start teaching each other what really does it for you, that you’ll have your
first real orgasm.
28. All men watch porn. But that’s OK because lots of
women do too. Don’t read too much into it.
29. Stop worrying about your weight.
Men are far more forgiving of your wobbly bits than you
are. He’s not looking at your thighs and thinking ‘Ew! Porridge’, he’s
thinking, 'Let me get my hands on those'. Sexy is a state of mind, not a body
size.
30. All sex positions are a variant of the basic five:
him on top, her on top, side-by-side, from behind and standing.
31. If you never initiate sex, your partner will feel
like you only have sex to please them. Besides, initiating sex makes you feel
powerful which is an aphrodisiac.
32. Women feel like sex a lot at certain times of the month
and are repulsed by the idea at others. This is normal. The female libido
fluctuates wildly during the monthly cycle.
Let your partner know this information so they don’t take
it personally – and where you’re at right now.
33. Real men don’t always get erections. Stress, age,
alcohol and lots of medication all affect them.
You don’t need an erect penis to have a good time in bed.
Most women have their best, most intense orgasms through oral sex.
34. Genitals come in all different shapes and sizes. Don’t
compare yours to the porn stars: they’ve all been ‘tidied up’, bleached and
waxed.
35. If you’re thinking of getting a ‘designer vagina’,
you are barking mad. Vaginal tightening after a particularly horrible birth is
one thing but opting for a ‘labial face-lift’ is as risky as the above-the-belt
version.
Except worse because there’s a risk of permanent loss of
sensation if too much skin is removed or ultra-sensitivity if a nerve is
exposed.
This effectively means your ability to orgasm is
compromised - or removed. You look fine as you are. Really.
36. Having sex purely to get the cuddle at the end isn’t
healthy. If that’s what you’re really after, go see a friend or your Mum
instead of a lover. Better still, get a dog.
37. Some men ask for sex when what they really want is
love.
Women aren’t the only ones who use sex to get affection.
Having sex is a sneaky, ‘manly’ way of getting close to you.
38. Sex long-term is very different than sex short term.
It doesn’t mean you don’t fancy your partner because you’re not spontaneously
gagging for it every day, six years in.
39. He’s not a mind reader. No-one knows what it is you
feel like, at any given moment, other than you.
40. Mouths are good for lots of things but telling your
partner what you like and don’t like is the most important use of all.
41. Refuse to feel guilty about your fantasies. What you
get up to in your imagination is your business.
42. Sex is smelly, noisy, sweaty and unflattering. Leave
your ego at the door and replace it with your sense of humour. If you haven’t
broken wind at the worst possible moment, you’re probably playing it too safe.
43. The more you have sex, the more you want sex. Stop
having it and you’ll forget how good it feels.
44. Think before you share your sexual fantasies. Make it
clear what you’re doing it or you may come home to a ‘surprise’ you definitely
didn’t expect.
45. It’s OK to stop having sex from time to time.
Sometimes life is too stressful (work worries, death of a
parent) or children too demanding. Taking a sex break takes the pressure off
and stops either of you freaking out because you know it’s not permanent.
46. Kids kill your sex life. But you can wrestle it back
again once they’re hit age two.
47. If you can talk though your sex problems you can
nearly always solve them.
48. Don’t try to put yourself in a box. Women are far
more erotically plastic than men and much more likely to be aroused by the
person, rather than their gender.
49. If you’re feeling bad after sex you’re sleeping with
the wrong person.
50.Sex is about give and take. You don’t have to
reciprocate in the same session but if you’re constantly lying back and taking,
you’re a selfish lover. Not sexy. Not lovable.
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